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Entries by Karl J Krayer, PhD

My Current and Recently Read Books – Sep / Aug

Here are the newest books that I have read recently:

(Note: The books marked with a (*) are current best-sellers)

Current Books (September, 2020)
Your Next Five Moves by Patrick Bet-Davis(*)
Look for Me by Lisa Garner
Near Dark by Brad Thor
Bedpan Commando by June Wandrey
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Recent Books (August, 2020)
The Room Where it Happened by John Bolton* (continued)
Spy Master by Brad Thor
Blue is the Warmest Color by Julie Maroh
You Call it Sports, but I Say it is a Jungle Out There by Dan Jenkins
Dallas 1963 by Bill Minutaglio and Steven Davis
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Patience is a Virtue

BIND (Brain Injury Network of Dallas)

August 31, 2020

By Karl K.
     Patience is a virtue. The problem is that most of us do not have much of it. The current generation has moved us into a state of instant gratification.
     People want things now.Not everyone believes that patience is a key to success. I spoke to 80 students last year who wanted to major in Speech Pathology. Many of them wanted to become therapists. At the close of the meeting, I wished all of them much luck, and a great career. And then, I stopped and said, “if you do not have great patience, you need to find something else to do.” Short of knowledge and wisdom, patience is the most important behavior for a professional to display.
     I see patience manifested every day. I am now in an organization called BIND (Brain Injury Network of Dallas). The directors and volunteers are the most patient people I have never been around! They may need to hit their heads a few times after getting home, but you would never know it while they work. They answer questions, help members walk and use a wheelchair, put up with constant interruptions, repeat instructions, and urge participants in a discussion to stay on the subject at hand. I can tell you that I could not do what they do, and they do it very well.
     As I write this blog, this week I am leading a group who wants to know how they can help others who have had language and speech difficulties. The formal term is aphasia. There are many ways to do that including the following:
Be patient
Use plenty of time
Establish the topic
Use “yes” and “no” questions
Repeat and ask for understanding
     Patience is important to someone who needs help, but who cannot be rushed. Have you ever said this: “how long do I need to take this medicine?” “How many visits to have to the doctor until I am healed?” Some things are not in your control. Some things cannot be rushed. You cannot hurry plants to grow, make the weather cooler, or cram for test that you should have studied for weeks, but you did not. You may be a Christian. You pray that God will make something happen for your family. He may, but the reality is that He works on his own time, not yours.
    Experts explain that four steps are needed to increase patience with others.
Make yourself wait
Stop doing things that are not important
Be mindful of the things that make you impatient
Relax and take deep breaths
         Taken from the video “Always Thinking”, October 30, 2019
     Think how the world would be a better place if we just use only 10% more patience. How would you use that time? You do not have answer right now. 
     Be patient!

 

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Looking Forward to December

This is going to be a leap of faith.

Randy Mayeux and I co-founded the First Friday Book Synopsis, and I gave monthly presentations on best-selling business books for 22 years. Randy is still keeping the program going, and I am committed to present on December 4, 2020. It will be the first time for me to speak to high-powered business audiences since the stroke hit three years ago. I have three months to prepare, and I have great members at BIND (Brain Injury Network of Dallas) and therapists, who work and support me, and who believe in me. It is time to do this again. The book is “Your Next Five Moves: Master the Art of Business Strategy” by Patrick Bet-David, published by Gallery Books (2020).   I am pictured with Bette Price, who is an original participant in the program, and who I presented with a lifetime membership.
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Appreciation For Your Kindness

This is not your usual blog post, but I just wanted to thank everyone for your support while my younger daughter was in ICU last week.  We almost lost her, but her surgery was successful, and she has a few more days in ICU until she can transfer into a rehab facility.  She will need to stay there for a few weeks.  This was especially nice from so many of you, as only a few people ever met her.

On another note, I do look forward to participate in the First Friday Book Synopsis in December.   The book will be exciting to learn about, and even if the circumstances are still not what we want, this should be a very valuable experience for everyone.  I will send out a preview soon.

 

Final Comments and Post on this Topic

     This is my final post on this topic.
     It has been great to read so many different views, and all of the passion that it brings:
     I just don’t think the country needs any more division. The BLM movement takes people away from each other, instead of getting people together. The protests are counterproductive to what they really want. This is not the way to heal the pain people feel in the country.
     It just seems that using hate as a way to catch up, and condone allowing people to destroy others property in the process, does not serve anyone well.
     And, that is all I want to say.

More Thoughts about Race Last Month

     Last month, when I watched the First Friday Book Synopsis online, it appeared to me that there were a lot of attendants who thought that there is something that people can do to change the mind of another person about race. At that time, I believed that any effort do this would be futile.
     In a post that I moderated from many respondents last week, I found that there are a lot of people who wrote that they want people to change someone’s belief, and others who think that they should. What is still missing though is how to do it. After reading many comments on this topic, I am not satisfied about how people want do this.
     I thought about how do this, although the method is not satisfying. I abhor the idea that people cannot change their mind by their own free will. Those efforts are wrong, unethical, and in some cases, illegal. There is a difference between what is persuadable versus coerced.
     It appears to me that the one way to change a person’s mind is to inundate them by with verified facts, statistics, and stories. In essence, this strategy is to wear people down, where they will tire of it, and will eventually change their mind.  They quit.  They stop defending the position.  To them, it is easier to just to give up.
     A good example of this goes back to the Rodney King incident. Notice at that time, attorneys played the famous beating tape many times, at different speeds, so that eventually the jury would no longer see the crime was not nearly so bad. Ultimately, this strategy resulted into an acquittal. In that way, how many times have you seen someone try to get a person many times to believe in a specific religion. Or maybe, the best scene is from “12 Angry Men,” where one person single-handedly convinced a jury that a black young teen should be found not guilty.
     As you know me, this strategy this is not what I want people to do. As I finish this post, I still do not see how anyone can change the person’s mind about race. If there is a strategy that works, you are welcome to post it in the response area, and I will share it with everyone.